Friday, February 11, 2011

Friendship & Health

FRIENDSHIP & HEALTH :
                                                                               In the quest for better health, many people turn to doctors, self-help books or herbal supplements. But they overlook a powerful weapon that could help them fight illness and depression, speed recovery, slow aging and prolong life: their friends.
                                   Researchers are only now starting to pay attention to the importance of friendship and social networks in overall health. A 10-year Australian study found that older people with a large circle of friends were 22 percent less likely to die during the study period than those with fewer friends. A large 2007 study showed an increase of nearly 60 percent in the risk for obesity among people whose friends gained weight. And last year, Harvard researchers reported that strong social ties could promote brain health as we age.

                                   “In general, the role of friendship in our lives isn’t terribly well appreciated,” said Rebecca G. Adams, a professor of sociology at the University of North Carolina, Greensboro.
                                   “There is just scads of stuff on families and marriage, but very little on friendship. It baffles me. Friendship has a bigger impact on our psychological well-being than family relationships.”

Exactly why friendship has such a big effect isn’t entirely clear. While friends can run errands and pick up medicine for a sick person, the benefits go well beyond physical assistance; indeed, proximity does not seem to be a factor.

It may be that people with strong social ties also have better access to health services and care. Beyond that, however, friendship clearly has a profound psychological effect. People with strong friendships are less likely than others to get colds, perhaps because they have lower stress levels.

Last year, researchers studied 34 students at the University of Virginia, taking them to the base of a steep hill and fitting them with a weighted backpack. They were then asked to estimate the steepness of the hill. Some participants stood next to friends during the exercise, while others were alone.

The students who stood with friends gave lower estimates of the steepness of the hill. And the longer the friends had known each other, the less steep the hill appeared.

“People with stronger friendship networks feel like there is someone they can turn to,” said Karen A. Roberto, director of the center for gerontology at Virginia Tech.

“Friendship is an undervalued resource. The consistent message of these studies is that friends make your life better.”

 
The Health Benefits of Friendship and a Strong Support Network:
                                   The emotional health benefits of friendship include a longer, happier life. Being a good friend makes your life more fun, interesting, and easy to handle! When you have even just one close or best friend, your attitude and ability to deal with stress and problems is increased.

Surprisingly, even spending time with an intimate partner doesn't provide the same physical and emotional health benefits as friendship. Good friends offer a different kind of support than lovers, siblings, parents, or children do. Good friends provide a different level of understanding and communication -- and this positively affects your health, wellness, and attitude. Strong feelings of connectedness is another emotional health benefit of friendship.



The Emotional Health Benefits of Friendship:
                                       Psychological research shows that stressed-out hamsters with skin wounds who were paired with other hamsters healed faster than those left alone to heal. The hamsters with friends also produced less of the stress hormone cortisol, which has negative effects on mood and immunity. You may not be a hamster, but the effects are transferable to human friends. If you're depressed, recuperating from an illness, or stressed you'll heal and deal faster with friends. This is a huge health benefit of friendship.

Values and Types of friendships

VALUES OF FRIENDSHIP:
         Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis:

    * The tendency to desire what is best for the other
    * Sympathy and empathy
    * Honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart
    * Mutual understanding and compassion
    * Trust in one another (able to express feelings - including in relation to the others actions - without the fear of being judged); able to go to each other for emotional support
    * Positive reciprocity - a relationship is based on equal give and take between the two parties
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Types of Friendship:
                                                                                    The true types of friendship are sincerity, understanding and true emotions but there is another way by which we can divide friendship in different categories: 
Acquaintance: A friend, but sharing of emotional ties isn't present. An example would be a coworker with whom you enjoy eating lunch or having coffee, but would not look to for emotional support. Many "friends" that appear on social networking sites are generally acquaintances in real life.
Best friend (or close friend): A person with whom someone shares extremely strong interpersonal ties with as a friend.
BFF ("Best Friend Forever"): Slang used primarily in the USA by teenage and young adult women to describe a girl friend or close best friend.
Blood brother or blood sister: May refer to people related by birth, or a circle of friends who swear loyalty by mingling the blood of each member together.
Bro: Slang used primarily in the USA and New Zealand by teenage and young adult men to describe a boy friend or close best friend.
Buddy: In the USA, males and sometimes females often refer to each other as "buddies", for example, introducing a male friend as their "buddy", or a circle of male friends as "buddies". Buddies are also acquaintances that you have during certain events. They could also be referred to as internet contacts, such as the AOL Buddy List.
Family Friend:It means friendship relation extended to family members of the friends. Close relation is developed in those societies where family setup is strong. This term usually used in subcontinent.
Comrade: It means "ally", "friend", or "colleague" in a military or (usually) left-wing political connotation. This is the feeling of affinity that draws people together in time of war or when people have a mutual enemy or even a common goal. Friendship can be mistaken for comradeship. Former New York Times war correspondent Chris Hedges wrote:

    We feel in wartime comradeship. We confuse this with friendship, with love. There are those, who will insist that the comradeship of war is love – the exotic glow that makes us in war feel as one people, one entity, is real, but this is part of war's intoxication.
    Friends are predetermined; friendship takes place between men and women who possess an intellectual and emotional affinity for each other. But comradeship – that ecstatic bliss that comes with belonging to the crowd in wartime – is within our reach. We can all have comrades.

Frenemy: A portmanteau of the words friend and enemy, the term frenemy refers to someone who pretends to be a friend but actually is an enemy---a proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing in the world of friendships. This is also known as a love-hate relationship. Most people have encountered a frenemy at one time or another in the same places one might find friends - school, work, the neighborhood. The term frenemy was reportedly coined by a sister of author and journalist Jessica Mitford in 1977, and popularized more than twenty years later on the third season of Sex and the City. While most research on friendship and health has focused on the positive relationship between the two, a frenemy is a potential source of irritation and stress. One study by psychologist Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad found that unpredictable love-hate relationships characterized by ambivalence can lead to elevations in blood pressure. In a previous study, the same researcher found that blood pressure is higher around friends for whom they have mixed feelings than it is when they’re around people whom they clearly dislike.
Imaginary friend: A non-physical friend created by a child or some person who has some mental or social illness, such as schizophrenia. Imaginary friends are also created for people in desperate of social interaction but is isolated from contact with humans and pets.
Internet friendship: A form of friendship or romance which takes place over the Internet. Some internet friendships evolve into real life friendships. Internet friendships are in similar context to a pen pal.
Pen pal: People who have a relationship via postal correspondence. Now pen pals has been established into internet friendship with the use of chat or social networking sites. They may or may not have met each other in person and may share either love, friendship, or simply an acquaintance between each other.
Love:
        Love is closely related to friendship in that it involves strong interpersonal ties between two or more people.

In terms of interpersonal relationships, there are two distinct types of love:

   1. Platonic love: is a deep and non-romantic connection or friendship between two individuals. It is love where the sexual element does not enter.
   2. Romance (love): considered similar to Platonic love, but involves sexual elements.

Engaging in a romantic relationship can change the dynamics of a platonic relantionship; in the event of a break-up, close friends who become romantically involved may experience difficulty in successfully resuming a comfortable friendship.

Non-personal friendships:
                                   Although the term initially described relations between individuals, it is at times used for political purposes to describe relations between states or peoples (the "Franco-German friendship", for example), indicating in this case an affinity or mutuality of purpose between the two nations.

Regarding this aspect of international relations, Lord Palmerston said:
                                                                         “ Therefore I say that it is a narrow policy to suppose that this country or that is to be marked out as the eternal ally or the perpetual enemy of England. We have no eternal allies, and we have no perpetual enemies. Our interests are eternal and perpetual, and those interests it is our duty to follow.”

This is often paraphrased as:
                                       "Nations have no permanent friends and no permanent enemies. Only permanent interests."

The word "friendship" can be used in political speeches as an emotive modifier. Friendship in international relationships often refers to the quality of historical, existing, or anticipated bilateral relationships.

Interspecies friendship and animal friendship:
          Friendship as a type of interpersonal relationship is found also among animals of higher intelligence, such as the higher mammals and some birds. Cross-species friendships are common between humans and domestic animals. Less common but noteworthy are friendships between an animal and another animal of a different species, such as a dog and cat.

What is Friendship?


Friendship

                                       "Friendship is an in-depth relationship combining trust, support, communication, loyalty, understanding, empathy, and intimacy."

Friendship is a feeling of comfort and emotional safety with a person. It is when you do not have to weigh your thoughts and measure words, before keeping it forth before your friend. It is when someone knows you better than yourself and assures to be your side in every emotional crisis. It is when you can sleep fighting and get another morning with a better understanding. Friendship is much beyond roaming together and sharing good moments, it is when someone comes to rescue you from the worst phase of life.                    True friendship is a precious gift. Your friend will provide the most understanding, loyal, trustworthy, helpful relationship this world could offer. This can be a family member, neighbor, co-worker or childhood comrade.
                           Just as a young mother will let go of the protective, supportive hand of her young child as he takes his first steps, a friend will know when to hold on to encourage you and know when to let go so you can soar to new heights. Just as a loving father walks down the isle and puts the precious hand of his daughter into the hand of her new husband, a true friend will guide you with gentle love. They might not always be by your side, but they will always be in your heart.
Friends stick it out through thick and thin. When you celebrate, they celebrate with you. When you suffer a loss, they sit beside you in mourning. And you, in turn, are there when they need them. You defend your friends, even if they disagree with some of the things they do.

                           A true friend always has your back. You can trust them completely. They deliberately and intentionally include you in their life, making you feel like a part of a team. Friends are able to confide their deepest secrets and share their biggest fears with you. They will listen to you vent for two hours on the same boring subject and just let you get it all out. A great friend will know that you will also be there on their day to vent, so they will tolerate you, because they have learned to trust you.

                             When a true friend has wonderful news, they can't wait to share it with you. And that same friend is always available to hear you share your good news. When you sit anxiously waiting for a doctor's report, they sit waiting with you. They know in their heart, you'll be there, should the situation reverse, with a comforting word to fit any situation.

                            Your best friend will forgive you when you lose their favorite keepsake. And you would forgive them if they borrow something of yours and ruin it. Now, true friends will not cross the line and take advantage, or use you for personal gain. But sometimes, things happen. We are not all perfect. A real friend knows your personality well enough to know that certain things are not your typical behavior, and they will forgive an occasional lack of good judgement. Being a good friend means you also would be forgiving of them for almost anything if they were sincerely sorry.

                           Your best friend will remain when several other friends come and go. Sure, we all get bored and want to go to new places and try new things. But that wonderful song from our days as children in the Scouts said: Make new friends, but keep the old. Some are silver and the others are gold.


                           True friendship endures the test of time. You would give up your important material things for your friend. It is written that there is no greater love than to lay down your life for a friend.
 COMPARISON OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP & FRIENDSHIP:
                         In a comparison of personal relationships, friendship is considered to be closer than association, although there is a range of degrees of intimacy in both friendships and associations. Friendship and association can be thought of as spanning across the same continuum. The study of friendship is included in the fields of sociology, social psychology, anthropology, philosophy, and zoology. Various academic theories of friendship have been proposed, among which are social exchange theory, equity theory, relational dialectics, and attachment styles.